St. Agnes Hospital Final Tableau
“When I am laid, am laid in earth,
May my wrongs create
No trouble, no trouble in thy breast;
Remember me, remember me, but ah! forget my fate.
Remember me, but ah! forget my fate.”
— aria from Henry Purcell’s Dido and Aeneas
My conference with Dad’s oncologist and infectious disease doc
goes as expected: Nothing suggests the sepsis which declared itself
is resolving. We reconcile not to further biopsy his medicalized life,
what to stop, what to begin to diminish pain, make breathing easier.
Brother-in-law inserted next to my wife — we shapeshift, share roles
seeing Poppy through. At the helm of the bed, I channel how to lean in,
lay on hands, where to kiss, when to cry, back off, exhort, forgive, let go.
MD finger on MD wrist, his pulse slowing, I guide Daddy’s journey
then posit everyone but my sister head out. She says to me,
“Gerry, you’re the overpriced doctor, so remove his nasal prongs.”
Just wanting to be a Father’s dutiful son, fingering
the room’s wondrous but alien crucifix, I try to hedge,
“Why don’t you check at the nursing station first?” Unmoved,
Sis counters, “Let’s take off the oxygen together.” We strip tape
from Pa’s mottled forehead. Other tasks fall to me — cut off
DNR bracelets. Shave. Change his gown. Detach paraphernalia,
daub his cheek. Wheel Mother in for last time alone. Regather.
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Heart-breaking and brave. I really feel grateful to be allowed in to see who such a thing is sometimes accomplished. Thank you.