Forever Held by an Invisible Patch
Some plants live for life, despite their two-year visible life, continuing on forever, full in imagination. Maybe it is those joyful things gained with pain that we cherish most– our children, degrees, homes, gardens, and citizenship. I cherish the blackberry patch that I grew up with by my house. Every year in May half the stalks would set their tiny white flowers and half would wait for their turn the following year to bloom, resting on the dead ones. I think about how we humans rest upon layers and layers of civilizations, how we individually stand thanks to those fallen, for our nation, for our family. I remember how the flowers would then die and green nubs of berries would come, growing to red and finally to full dark blue, black. The important men in my life are snared by this small, dark fruit, painful to gather.
Growing up my sister and I would take old metal coffee cans and go out back to the patch with my Dad. The three of us spread out in the patch. We were flexible then, bending down to stare up at the silent burgeoning beauties hanging. We always came back with colanders filled and with one or two thorns somewhere in our flesh. The patch thrived between a row of pines and a willow.
The berries were so abundant that we froze bags and bags of them. They went from dark purple to red in the freezer. I cannot remember when the patch started to thin. I suppose it happened gradually or when I was away at school. I remember when the willow by the patch started to die, its large limb broken, swaying downwards. It was the start of my parents’ divorce. The tree went untended, just like the patch. While my Dad threw furniture around and we righted it, nature was left to tend to itself. The hanging limb withered year by year, but still hung, like the noose my Dad told the therapist was around his neck; the noose was us.
One day I noticed poison ivy around the blackberry patch. I was picking in August. The patch was thin, and there were few berries. The berries there were small and not plump. I remember spotting one plump one on a low plant. I bent down to pick it, then suddenly stopped as I saw the three leaves signifying danger. The berry was so ripe, so full of juice, but I could not proceed to pick. How would I put it in my mouth? I stopped and retreated. I could only look at this berry. I dared not to touch it.
After my Dad had moved out of the house, he was not allowed on the property. The land and the house that he spent thirty years in were verboten by law to him. You strike your wife, you threaten her, and you may not come near her. The trees he planted grew. When he came to pick us up he could only stop at the driveway. The land that he had lived on for so many years was forbidden territory. The hanging limb stared at him from down the driveway saying, “it’s over, it’s over.” But he still asked us to bring him berries when we saw him in July or August, and every time we came with a handful he was in disbelief, as if we were hoarding barrels of them at home. The patch had simply stopped. Instead of picking with colanders and coffee cans, a small bowl sufficed.
Perhaps the patch was destined for decay, being that it was by a dilapidated barn. Half of the barn had to be knocked down so the rest could remain usable. Maybe that corner of the property pulls things down. Adjacent to this corner stands a tall oak tree. It has grown wide and is firm in place. Sometimes I would go to sit there during my parents’ divorce, my back to the patch, staring at the corral, remembering how my father had wanted to burn the field, to make anew. We were small. It was a Saturday. We were doing family yard work when he decided to burn. The whole corral started on fire and we turned to see him standing there yelling. We came with shovels and buckets of water. Everyone covered a different side, working for a common cause. We were lucky that day. The fire was contained. It did not spread to neighbors’ land. My favorite childhood knickknack is a candle of a little firefighter girl holding a hose, with the inscription at the base that “only you can put out the fire”. I like to think of how we are responsible for our anger. My Dad had such difficulty controlling his anger, whether it was his loud voice, curses, angry eyes or red face, and I too have trouble maintaining composure or right words when something pricks me. With fire and anger comes responsibility.
Some of my fondest memories are of my family together on our land, doing yard work. You cannot really talk when you are doing yard work, so I guess there is very little chance of things going wrong. And this was a plus since my Dad liked to say things to get a rise out of people. Picking up sticks and raking leaves were big family projects, helped by the trailer attached to the little yellow Sears tractor my Dad drove. It was time to breathe the same air, look at the same things and time to reach out together. I do not see many families working together in their yards today, and it makes me sad. There is something so beautiful about pulling a tarp together, grunting till reaching the dropping place. There is a sense of united entitlement to end the day together. We give something very important away when we hire landscaping crews to do our yards for us. Perhaps the moment we hired others to come to work on our yard is when our family really started to fall. There was no need to work together on the outside, on the visible, the tangible. Maybe we lost a connection to our land at that moment. Maybe our land lost its connection to us too and started to die, the blackberry bushes one by one lost.
Our next-door neighbor to the North was like a grandfather to me growing up. He’d been there since my parents had moved in. When my Dad learned about the neighbor’s blackberry patch in the woods he asked if he could have a few bushes. The neighbor later told me my Dad had cleared the whole patch; he was shocked. After our neighbor died about forty years later, a huge blackberry patch came forth between his garage and row of pines. It was like those berries came to stitch his fifty-year spot he had on that piece of land in place, as if someone would be sure to lose some blood if his property was altered. When I saw the blackberry patch on our neighbor’s land, I felt like he had given us a sign that he was o.k., that he had given us a present, as if to say that new patches will come into your life. Those berries were like justice served, though too late, but they stand and flower returned back to where they first came from. Maybe because our neighbor was so deeply rooted to his house and his land, he was able to be porous, to let my Dad come like a hawk and take those blackberries, because he knew the flux of nature, that what goes out finds its way back eventually. My Dad died two years after my neighbor. Now they are both in the invisible patch; it is abundant beyond my human eyes. There is sweetness in their mouths.